|Me looking at flowers:||if I was a fairy I would totally use this as a dress|
If you have ever once shamed a girl or viewed her as a lesser person for having sex; once, multiple times or with multiple people; safely, maturely and simply for her own enjoyment; ask yourself: ‘why?’
'Why should she feel guilty for doing that?'
'Why is the act of sex so shocking and forbidden?'
'Why is it a bad thing?'
And for every answer you seem to come up with, ask yourself ‘why?’ again.
Eventually, once you pass through the ‘because she will get a reputation as “easy”’, ‘because it shows a lack of self-respect’, ‘because she is destroying her purity’, and, ‘because boys dont like that’… you will eventually come to the dead end: ‘because society says that’s how it is’.
And you will realize that all of your ridiculous reasons and false facts and assumptions are nothing but tangling weeds stemming out from one bitter seed: Society.
And if that ceases to work for you, reverse the situation to one which the girl is a man, and ask yourself the same questions ‘why’ again.
Society is a mysoginist.
You spit ‘slut’ in a woman’s face or whisper ‘whore’ behind her back, not because she is defiling herself or destroying her ‘purity’ or ‘femininity’, but because societal structures told you so. Not because of her mere explorations of relationships and individual sexuality, but because society programmed you. And only that reason.
Some people truly view sex as a very precious act of love, and only feel comfortable having sex with someone they trust entirely. That is a very personal preference, and that is okay. Just as someone who views sex as a liberating and spiritual experience which should be enjoyed with as much variety, frequency and casualness that they feel like, is okay.
Trace the source from which your belief stems from; do not let society tell you how that belief grows; do not shame anyone for acting on a belief that does not match yours.